We saw a fertility specialist.
Michele's remaining fallopian tube is not right. It's not 'ideal for pregnancy', it's not blocked, but could be in the future. No one knows for sure. It also INCREASES the chances of another ectopic pregnancy. There's a chance for pregnancy, but it will be difficult, and after that she must pass the ectopic scenario - another risk.
There are a few alternatives and we are going to sit down and talk about it.
From a personal note - the news is a downer. Michele is turning 37 - not old in my book, but for babies it's getting there.
The time frame of us personally having children is closing a bit more every year. No doubt, I believe in miracles (God can do all things), but there's a part of me and Michele that was truly hurt by the news. I think the rewards of marriage: children and the legacy of family is something every couple desires. This news almost bookends to some old wounds from our ectopic pregnancy (f you never heard of it, investigate it for the sake of your wife/self).
After losing our child in the ectopic pregnancy - I can't help but feel a bit pained by the news. Both of us always wanted children, but now we're in 'no man's' land. We're taking a deep breath as to what we want to do next, but if you have children count your blessing. Walking through this road of questions is painful.
My advice to those who are young, have your children now - don't wait God willing. As you get older your chances are slimmer and riskier. We put ourselves into God's hands. This is a reminder of God's will and resting in it. It's not easy, it's painful at times, but God never said it was easy. In times like this you must truly rely upon God. Throw yourselves completely into his hands and just rest in that.
I think this news today really hit me hard: I've been made to be a dad. Wanting that role. Adoption is our on radar, but we shall see what God has in store.